As Father’s Day approaches, many families are making plans to celebrate the father figures in their lives. But for the estimated 30,000 men in Colorado living with Alzheimer’s disease, this day of appreciation can bring a different set of challenges.

The Alzheimer’s Association is encouraging families to take a compassionate and thoughtful approach this Father’s Day—one tailored to the unique needs of dads with dementia.

A Day of Love, Not Overwhelm

“On Father’s Day, when we’re really focusing on Dad, we want to make sure that this is a day he enjoys—that he is the center of attention in a way that’s comfortable for him,” said Jim Herlihy, spokesperson for the Alzheimer’s Association of Colorado.

For men living with Alzheimer’s, even well-intentioned gatherings can quickly become overwhelming. Loud noises, unfamiliar environments, or large groups can lead to agitation, confusion, or anxiety—turning a joyful occasion into a stressful one.

Adjusting Expectations: Simple, Calm, and Familiar

Herlihy stresses the importance of adjusting family expectations. What once may have been a treasured tradition—like a bustling barbecue or a big family outing—might now be disorienting or even distressing.

“While that might have been a good choice a couple of years ago, right now for Dad, that’s going to make him uncomfortable,” Herlihy said. “It’s not going to be a celebration—it could be upsetting.”

Instead, the Alzheimer’s Association recommends:

• Celebrating at home in a familiar and calm environment

• Limiting the guest list to close family and friends

• Planning activities Dad enjoys, like listening to music, looking at old photos, or going for a short walk

• Keeping conversations simple and clear, allowing time for response

• Watching for signs of fatigue or distress, and being flexible with plans

Personalizing the Day for Dad

The focus should be on what brings Dad comfort now, not necessarily what he would have enjoyed before his diagnosis. For some families, that might mean a quiet breakfast at home. For others, it may involve one-on-one time with a child or grandchild, doing something familiar.

“It’s about quality over quantity,” said Herlihy. “A small, meaningful moment can be far more enjoyable than a busy, overwhelming day.”

Alzheimer’s Across Generations

Father’s Day can also be an emotional day for adult children caring for a father who no longer remembers their names or recognizes their faces.

The Alzheimer’s Association encourages caregivers to shift focus from memory to presence.

“Even if your father doesn’t remember who you are, he can still feel love, kindness, and connection,” the organization notes. “Celebrate what can be shared.”

Support Is Available

Caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s can be isolating, but families don’t have to face it alone. The Alzheimer’s Association offers a 24/7 helpline, local support groups, educational resources, and guidance for caregivers navigating holidays and milestones.

For more information, visit alz.org or call 800-272-3900.

Creating New Traditions

Father’s Day may not look the same for every family touched by Alzheimer’s—but with thoughtful planning and a heart-led approach, it can still be a day filled with connection, dignity, and joy.

As Herlihy puts it:

“Let it be Dad’s day—but let it be the kind of day he needs it to be.”